The Total Truth LetterNote: We found this "Total Truth Letter" in Jack Canfield's book The Success Principles. We have used it ourselves on several occasions and have found it to be so powerful that we wanted to make it available here for our visitors. We want to thank Jack Canfield for making this available. If you haven't read The Success Principles or his Chicken Soup for the Soul series, we highly recommend them. To visit
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The reason I call it the total truth is that often, when we’re upset, we fail to communicate all our true feelings to the person we’re upset with. We get stuck at the level of anger or pain and rarely move past it to emotional completion. As a result, it can be difficult to feel close to- or even at ease with- the other person after such an angry or painful confrontation… The Total Truth Process can be conducted verbally or in writing. Whichever method you choose, the goal is to express the anger and hurt, and then move toward forgiveness and love. If you participate verbally- always with the other person’s permission- begin by expressing your anger, and then move through each stage all the way through to the final stage of love, compassion, and forgiveness. You can use the following prompts to keep you focused at each stage. For the process to be effective, you need to spend an equal amount of time on each of the six stages.” 1. Anger and resentment 2. Hurt 3. Fear 4. Remorse, regret, and accountability 5. Wants 6. Love, compassion, forgiveness, and appreciation -Jack Canfield, Leave the Total Truth Letter and visit our blog |
